Interview With Magnus

Let's start with the mother of all community questions... How did you get into the community?

Ha ha, funny story. There was this guy at my university known as 'Martin the Stalker'. He was massively weird, one of those computer geeks who at 21 looks like he's 50. After he graduated I started getting emails from him about Ross Jeffries, about how he tranced out a barmaid and fucked some girl in a toilet. I was a typical AFC and replied saying "well, it'll save you a fortune in date rape pills".

But I kept going back to looking at the site... and found I liked the ideas about non-supplication and things like the Cube. When the Mystery/RSD style of game came into fashion I really started getting into it.

What's your style?

It varies. I've read absolutely everything and tried most of it. Not necessarily to the point where I can get it to work, but definitely to the point where I can see if it fits with my personality. At the moment I'm integrating Mystery Method, the structure is awesome. I'm also looking at Juggler-style conversational power, I like that.

Who have you sarged with?

Anyone I could meet. I'll hang out with anyone once.

Recently the community's been getting quite a lot of media attention, good or bad?

I don't think it's particularly good or bad. You'll get rumbled from time to time if you always use the well known canned openers, but the authentic stuff about developing your confidence and masculinity is undetectable. It's pointless to worry about it, just work it in.

I just had a Day 2 with a girl I met while helping on an MM workshop. Halfway through the afternoon she says "so Bristol Lair is an interesting site". I suspected she'd seen it linked from my homepage. She was intrigued in the whole thing and didn't seem threatened by it. I showed her the Sunday Times article that said I looked like a frog and had several girls on the go around the world. That may have been a step too far!

I think it's important to realise that the Community is helping girls too. How many hot, intelligent single girls do you know that complain about not being able to find a decent guy? I know quite a few. The basic message is self improvement, one of the Bristol Lair slogans is "Being the Best Person you can Be". So it really depends how you frame the whole thing to yourself and to anyone who finds out you are in it.

Project Ibiza! Tell us about your plans..

Well, the big event is the Ibiza Summit from 8-15 July. We've taken over a building of holiday apartments, something like 9 out of 30 apartments will be community guys from all over the world. I've been surprised with the response from guys in the US particularly, who are coming over just for that week. I made it clear the emphasis will be on fieldwork. There might be some talks but otherwise it'll be 24 hour sarging, something only possible in Ibiza.

What was your most spectacular sarge? What happened?

Probably getting a girls number across the tracks, from the opposite platform at a tube station. I spoke to her on the phone but she never texted back.

Click here for the field report.

Stunt-sarging is fun. Like going up and talking to couples to see what happens. One time in Vienna I pulled two girls off a group of 10 guys and #-closed them. It's the sort of thing that only happens when you're in a great state and pushing your comfort levels. I've seen Tyler Durden and others do very impressive things too.

But it's just showing off at the end of the day. For me, my main motivation is really to meet great girls, and ultimately a great girl.

My most memorable sarge was in New York. It was a freezing cold night and we were debating whether or not to go into this club as there were a couple of hundred people in the queue in front of us to get in. I had a wander down the line and counted a ratio of something like 5 guys to every 1 girl, and even those girls weren't that great looking. But you only need one girl... and I saw this absolutely stunning one, made eye contact with her, and wandered back to my wings suggesting that we did wait and go in. Once inside I did a warm-up set or two and then found the girl I'd seen in the queue. We got on really well and her friends left her alone. We made out a bit but she had to go back to New Jersey that night. We kept in touch for nearly two months until I was back in New York and had a great couple of days together, we still talk on MSN a lot a year later. When you see a girl and just think "I want her", and you know what to do to get her, it's very empowering.

What do you think about the current shift of focus towards lifestyle and natural game?

It's what the whole thing is really about. All the routines and games are just training wheels. I think people lose sight of that.

The confidence I gained from pick-up training is the same confidence that had me quit my job two years ago to do my own thing. The big learning was the concept that you can study seduction, and improve your results. This applies to wealth and success too. I studied pick-up and practiced enough to get myself to a point well above the
average guy - anything beyond that is a bonus I think. But then I applied the same principles to making money, reading a lot of Anthony Robbins, Brian Tracy, etc. Last month was the first month that I learned more in a month from my own projects than I did in my old job.

What's your sticking point and do you have a plan to solve this SP?

I've been dealing with a lot of deep inner game stuff. Profound blocks on things from my childhood, I guess. The first time round, I covered these up, forgot about them and got good at pick-up. But they were still there, and needed dealing with. Part of me still identified with the geek I was at school, even though this confident pick-up guy was in control most of the time. It probably didn't really show to anyone else.

One time in London I was talking to this insanely hot girl at a gig, and my friends all thought I looked totally cool and laid back. She probably did too, judging by the way she was reacting. But my left leg was shaking like a bastard and inside there was this voice screaming "you're going to fuck this up! she can't possibly be interested in you" etc. So going back to squash that voice has brought up a lot of things I'd forgotten, and has lowered my state a lot recently. But it'll be well worth it.

What things do you still hope to achieve?

Making the Ibiza Summit fucking incredible for anyone who can make it.

I've been asked to help find guys for a UK-based documentary. They want to take 3 AFCs and send them on all the bootcamps. I'd like to get more involved with that too, as I think it's an important story to tell and I want to do what I can to see it told well.

Other than that, I want to meet a great girl and make her my girlfriend for however long we are supposed to be together. There have been times in the past where that seemed like such a remote possibility for me, like I'd never meet someone I loved as much as my first girlfriend in college who broke my heart. But now it's just a case of keeping hold of one of the awesome girls who come into my life every so often. I'd like to focus on Wealth and Health for a while.

What is your tip for aspiring PUA's?

- Read/watch/listen to as much material as you can.
- Meet as many other community guys as you can.
- Talk to as many girls as you possibly can, push your comfort zones and try new things.



Thank you Magnus!

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